Parenting After Trauma

Dear Survivor Parent,

Yes, birthing and parenting are triggers that can open up old wounds. If you are struggling to manage flashbacks and intrusive thoughts about your childhood abuse while parenting, you are not alone in this. And yes, there is something we can do about it.

Hi, I’m Joyelle Brandt I’m a self care coach for parents, who specializes in working with survivors of abuse. I want you to know that when you are feeling triggered by daily acts of parenting, you are experiencing a completely normal response for someone with a trauma history. You are not crazy, you are not broken, and together we can work to heal from old trauma patterns and build a life with more joy and connection.

If you would like to learn more about Parenting After Trauma, join me on May 13th in Port Moody for an evening workshop. We will cover:

- how early childhood trauma affects mental, emotional, and physical health throughout the lifespan

- common triggers for parenting survivors

- common reactions and symptoms experienced by parenting survivors

- the role self and co-regulation play in recalibrating the body’s stress response system

You will leave the evening with validation, support, and concrete steps that you can take to start feeling better in your daily life with your kids. Your history does not have to be your future. You have the power to create the life that you want for yourself and your family.


Parenting with PTSD Interview Series, a conversation with Andrea Papin, RTC

I recently interviewed Andrea Papin, RTC for the Parenting with PTSD interview series. We had a great conversation about the role of anger, grief and forgiveness in the healing process. Check out the video below!

 "Anger and grief are feelings that arise when we experience a loss, a transgression, an injustice, a boundary violation, or a transition. They are embodied energy that alert us to what we value and what we need. They can be a way to honour what we have lost." -Andrea Papin


 "Forgiveness is a word that we hear thrown around a lot, but what does it really mean and how important is it in the context of trauma?

Typically, the word “forgiveness” is used to describe the arrival at a state of peace, that involves a letting go of anger and resentment towards someone who has harmed us.  In the context of trauma, we tend to think of an abuser, perpetrator, or even an event.  We also tend to talk about forgiving ourselves.

All of these ways of talking about trauma seem to elude to a particular trajectory with an endpoint where we are healed, calm and wise. Now I don’t doubt that this is possible, but I don’t think that forgiveness is an endpoint, a necessity or a feeling state that is static." -Andrea Papin